You Are NOT Alone

Yesterday was a really hard day. I woke up with my hands swollen and achy. I couldn’t put on Ethan’s shoes or tighten the buckle of his car seat.

I cried.

I felt broken… I felt isolated.

Here we are hoping for a second kid and I can’t even do the small tasks I need to do for the one we already have.

I was tired.

Hell, I am tired… tired of feeling broken and tired of feeling like my body is letting me down. And, my first instinct when something like this happens is to turn it off- ignore and withdraw. I don’t want to burden anyone with my shit and I certainly don’t want to be vulnerable. So, I don’t reach out. I don’t call, return emails, or text back. I don’t want to be victim and for fucks sake, I don’t want pity.

I create barriers and thus I feel alone.

And then, at the right moment, someone reached out. She coincidentally is also dealing with health issues. As we talked I felt my heart expand as she encouraged me, inspired me, and pushed me to keep on.

And I realized...

I’m not alone.

And, neither are you.

When you get home from the hospital with that new baby and you cry because you’re scared, because you’re tired, because you have no idea how to do anything

You’re not alone

When you’re a new mom and you can’t for the life of you stop the crying, and you wonder what the hell you were thinking bringing a child into this world

You’re not alone

When your toddler, who’s been sleeping through the night, starts to wake up 5 times a night and you want to bash your head into the wall

You’re not alone

When you and your husband have a heated conversation about certain aspects of discipline and you feel a bit ragey

You’re not alone

When you’re waiting in line to get into the zoo and your little one who’s been extremely patient starts screaming like a banshee causing other parents to give you “that” look

You’re not alone

When you’re in a funk, feeling down, need a hug, or are dealing with something major that brings you down and lays you flat…

YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

We are never alone. None of us.

Many times, it’s our thinking that we are a burden or that nobody is able to understand that causes us to remain silent and causes us to pull away.

And in reality, if we open ourselves up to asking for help, forgiveness, understanding, or just for someone to listen, the loneliness and solitude fades away.

Someone will listen, someone will forgive, and someone WILL understand and ask what you need.

Someone cares.

We are a community. All of us moms.

But, we have to get over the fear of being vulnerable. We have to ask for help. We have to call on those in our tribe, community, people, clan… WHATEVER you call it. We have to stop worrying about judgment and acceptance.

We just need to show up- for the mamas around us, and for ourselves.

Because while feeling vulnerable sucks ass, feeling let down, exhausted, ragey, emotional, achy, unimportant, not worthy, sad… sucks even more.

So, initiate those conversations and put yourself out there.

Because you are not alone and we need you.

Are you interested in joining the online community of moms that I'm creating?

There are several ways.

First, my Mindful Mama e-course opens this coming Tuesday, September 13. Although the self-paced course is only 7 days, it is is so much of what I needed to become centered and reflective of who I was showing up as. .

Over the week’s lessons, we talk about taking care of ourselves, clearing away the perfectionist mindset, overcoming overwhelm, feeling productive and creating energy, creating an attitude of gratitude, and dealing with loneliness and then we pair these emotions with a short 5-8 minute yoga practice and some short introspective journaling. And, it comes with free entry to an online group of mamas.

Let me tell you- if you struggle to make time for yourself or, just don’t know how to focus on yourself, this course will help. Let me help you become a more Mindful Mama. To read more, or sign up, check it out HERE!

Secondly, in October, I'm launching my online coaching club- the Mama Love Tribe. This group is a community focused around love- love for our body, mind and spirit as well as that of the mamas around us.

You can find out more HERE!